About Guiding Confidants

What does it mean to be mentor?

It means to prayerful consider what is being said, to listen without judgement and listen with love. To be an ear to people in their current phase of life and by being a voice of wisdom for where their potential can take them. It means to hold them accountable to their goals by asking difficult questions that most people are too afraid to ask, knowing that you are coming from a place of kindness and wisdom.

What is means to be a mentee?

To listen and be openminded to force the walls to stay down when being asked hard questions and to prayerfully consider the guidance. To ask for advice and ask good questions, to be intentional and honest.

As a mentee, you are the initiator, this means that every in person meeting you need to plan a day and a time, work with all the schedules in line and to remind and follow up. It is a gift of time and energy that the mentor is giving you, you want to make it as easy on them as possible.

Mission Statement

Guiding Confidants is a mentoring program that encourages and spurs one another on. It creates a safe space to hold each other accountable and to become the best versions of ourselves, understanding that you always have something to offer and always have something to learn. It helps you to stay empathetic, open minded and kind, to love through all situations.

Guiding Confidants Goals

Is to change Oklahoma one relationship at a time, fighting against isolation and fear. To open our eyes and realize the kindred souls all around us.

What it means to be a part of the program

  • At least 3 in person meeting a quarter with your mentee/mentor
  • 2 podcasts a quarter
  • 1 luncheon a quarter

Questions to ask in your once a month meetings:

How can I be most helpful to you right now?
What are things that are consuming your thought life?
What are you trying to get better at?
What is something you are doing well?
What excites you right now?

Verses that are the roots

Romans 12:3 –8 – For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly then he ought to think, but to think with sober judgement, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned. For as in one body we have many members, and the members do not all have the same function, so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, in proportion to our faith, if service, in our serving; the one who teaches, in his teaching the one who exhorts, in his exhortation; the one who contributes, in generosity; the one who leads, with zeal; the one who does acts of mercy, with cheerfulness.

Phil 2: 3-16 so if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. DO nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus. who, though he was in the form of God did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being more in the likeness of men, and being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on the cross. Therefore, God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord to the glory of God the Father

Proverbs 17:17 -A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity 1 Thesselonians 5:14 – And we urge you, brother’s, admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all.

John 15:12 – 13– this is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you. No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have hear from my father I have made known to you. You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointment you that you should go and bear fruit and that you fruit should abide, so that whatever you ask the father in my name he may give it to you. these things I command you, so that you will love one another.

Romans 12:9 – 13 Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord. Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality

Ephesians 4: 32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving on another as God in Christ forgave you.

1 thessalonians 5: 11 Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.

Ephesians 4: 25 Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another.

James 1: 19 Know this, my beloved brothers: let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.

Proverbs 12: 15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice

Eccles 4: 9-12 Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up.

Ecclesiates 2: 13 Then I saw that there is more to gain in wisdom than in folly, as there is more gain in light than in darkness

Eccl 7:5 it is better for a man to hear the rebuke of the wise than to hear the song of fools